In the last week, Jack has gotten one nap, and that was a short one. We’ve both tried, neither of us has been successful, so we decided to reset again. When John took over naps, the idea was that he would put a sleepy Jack down in the crib, give him a couple of minutes to settle down, and then leave. If Jack cried, John would check in on him at increasing intervals (Ferber method). When John was doing naps and it was working, he never had to do the Ferber thing. Jack fell asleep within a couple of minutes every time. Then he started taking longer to fall asleep, and then he wasn’t falling asleep at all. We kind of lost the plan, and so now we’re here.
Reset. Again. Back to Ferber, but since John really needs to work, I’m stepping back in. Our plan yesterday was to have John read to him and put him down, then leave, and I’d do the check-ins. John left, Jack started crying, and John retreated to his office and his headphones. I waited out the five minutes (No fun – he sounded more upset than mad, not like the last time we tried this. I can outwait mad.), and then I went in. Jack went into panic mode when he realized I wasn’t going to pick him up. He had worked himself into a sweat, he was clutching at me and sobbing and calling my name, and with all of that, I still tried to leave like I’m supposed to. He let out this wail I’ve never heard from him, like I was leaving him forever, and I rushed back in to pick him up. We cried together, and John came back to give him a hug and apologize.
Experiment over. We’re not doing it. John is going to read the No-Cry Nap Method and try to get more advice out of it than I did months ago, and the meantime, we’re not going to leave him alone like that.
That was yesterday. Last night he didn’t sleep well. He was up from around 2:20 to a little after 4, and then he woke up for the day at 5:45. We played and snacked and took a very exciting walk and played and snacked, and then I took him upstairs around 11:30, maybe a few minutes earlier. We followed our nap routine (diaper change, back into pjs and the nap sack), and sat in the big chair to read a couple of books. We read four short ones, and he was knuckling his eyes and yawning the whole time. (In between books, you’d never know he was sleepy – he springs forward, practically falling out of my lap to point to the next book, or to scan the floor for one he just knows is around here somewhere.) After the fourth book, I picked him up and he didn’t protest when I put him in the crib. He went down flat and reached for my hand. I started describing our morning (at one point, he sat up straight and shouted “GUCK!”), and he was asleep within three minutes. I retrieved my hand and snuck out. As of right now, he’s been asleep for an hour.
Fluke. Today’s nap is the result of not sleeping well last night, and I REALLY don’t want that to be the norm. But my plan, if he doesn’t go to sleep so easily tomorrow, is to try to soothe him to sleep from outside the crib, like we do at night, for around half an hour. If he’s not asleep within that window, then I’ll have everything ready to go so I can just throw him in the stroller and go for a long walk. At least he’ll get some restful time, and if we’re lucky, maybe he’ll snooze a little.